I've been watching the news, which I really don't like to do. In about ten minutes, a rally will start at the state capitol building to protest California's ruling on Proposition 8. This means I'll be watching the news again at ten to find out how that went. As it's kind of a big deal to a lot of us, I thought I'd share some of my thoughts.
First, I am feeling kind of gloomy about it. It's not because I had hopes of getting married in California someday, because I didn't. It's because I know it's causing sadness for a lot of people tonight.
Second, I'm glad that the courts at least decided that those who did take the opportunity to get married are still recognized as married. Those couples made that commitment to each other and they deserve to have that stand. That made me happy.
Third, I wonder about what repercussions this will have for me, or someone like me, who lives and has always lived in Utah, is LDS, and is still in the closet. The LDS Church already issued their statement, and I don't think anyone is surprised by their response. They are pleased with the courts ruling. Really? Shocking!
I believe that freedom of religion and freedom of marriage are two separate things. I believe that churches should be allowed to decide who they will and won't marry. If Catholics or Mormons or Protestants or whoever wants to say "we won't marry two people of the same gender," that's their call, and they should have the freedom to make that call. But that doesn't mean that marriage and the rights that are given to married people by the government should be exclusively decided by churches. It shouldn't be a constitutional issue. I believe everyone should have the right and the opportunity to get married. All men (and women, I might add) are created equal, which means that there shouldn't be different rules based on the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. That seems pretty simple to me, but that's just me, I guess.
Did I say that in a way that makes sense? I hope so.
So I'm not standing on the steps of my state's capitol. I haven't made signs that state my opinions. I don't even own a rainbow flag. But I understand why people are there, with their signs and their flags and their courage and their convictions, because I support marriage equality too.
One day, I hope gay marriage rallies won't be needed at all, because there won't be "straight marriage" and "gay marriage," there will just be MARRIAGE: the uniting of two people in a commitment of love.